A prominent figure recently made statements about purposes and worth....and what life choices deem some as selfish. It was aimed at men and women, but I'm talking about women for now because it is what I know.
I'm not here to debate religion. I am here to say this because I worry that especially for women, the message could be detrimental. I worry that somewhere out there, those words cut deep for someone.
Here's the thing:
If you mothered children, you are worthy in my book.
If you mothered others in any way, you are worthy.
If you can't mother in the traditional sense, you are worthy.
If you mother as a dog or cat or any other creature mom, you are worthy.
If you don't mother in any way at all, you are worthy.
Our worth as people and especially women is not solely tied to our mothering qualities. Being a mother is important and admirable. I respect you all. But I also respect those of you who don't feel that calling, that purpose. I respect those of you who are called to it in a non-traditional sense. I respect those of you who love and nurture in different ways. I respect those of you who love and nurture yourself enough to chase the life that is right for you.
There is nothing selfish or detrimental or shameful about living your own purpose, your own life, and your own calling....whatever that looks like.
It takes all types, all beliefs, all values, and all pathways to make this world a better place, in my opinion. Never follow the pathway that you feel you must. Follow the one that sets your heart on fire.
And yes, I am in the dog mom only category....and proud of it. To those who have ever loved a dog, you know there is nothing selfish or ugly or detrimental about that bond.
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