Girl, you're doing just fine

Stop Feeling Like You Have To Do It All

Girl, even when it feels like the dishes are piled to the moon and you didn’t have time to make the breakfast smoothie and you ate iced coffee for lunch and you forgot to take the photo and the dog hasn’t been walked in days and the laundry is a mountain you’ll never be able to cross and you didn’t do your yoga and your hair is frizzy….Girl, you’re doing just fine.

When the baseboards are covered in mystery goo and the bathroom mirror is splattered and that work list is growing and there is limited food in the fridge because you didn’t get to shop and the tax folder is a mess and you need to get ear medicine for your dog but didn’t get to just yet…Girl, you’re doing just fine.

When you forgot to text back and you just want to cancel that party and sleep and when you didn’t fit in the meditation you swore you’d do and you forgot to drink all the water and dinner was a frozen meal in the microwave and you haven’t done a spa mask in weeks and you forgot about that appointment…Girl, you’re doing just fine.

Let’s be real here…life is impossible most of the time. Like how the hell does anyone keep up with bills, work, social life, family, the house, pets, their body, their makeup, their hair routine, yoga, vitamins, healthy eating, taxes, cleaning, decorating, events, appointments, kids, and still find time to keep their sanity? How? Like how?

Here’s the little secret…they don’t. That person who has it all together at work…their car is filled with straw papers. Or that girl who has perfect hair and makeup…she struggled to fall asleep last night because she was up with a sick kid. Or maybe that girl who has the gym mastered can’t find time for her spirituality like she wants to. Or that couple who has it all…maybe they’re feeling lost deep down. 

The thing is: We’re all doing the best we can. But there are a MILLION things to do, especially for a modern woman. And you can’t do them all. You just can’t. Even with help, you can’t. I think you have to learn to give yourself grace and remember that no one, no one, no one, is doing it all perfectly.

So what if your baseboards are dirty or the dishes are stacked or you forgot to make that appointment. So you didn’t walk three miles today or you ate popcorn for breakfast. So your daughter’s hair is in a frizzy ponytail instead of a cute braid. So the dog had to play with a laser pointer today because you didn’t fit in the walk. That’s okay. It’s more than okay, and you’re more than fine.

Because I think if we can all admit we’re not doing it all, if we can be honest and real and raise our hand to say, “My dishes are to the moon,” or “I am struggling to get in 5,000 steps let alone 10,000,” or “I can’t even think of focusing at that meeting today,” well, then I think we give ourselves permission to have grace for each other…and for ourselves.

You’re doing a good job. Period. So stop focusing on what you didn’t do or what isn’t perfect. Start focusing on what you DID do. You got out of bed. You shared a quick smile with your child or spouse. You had a sip of coffee. You took the stairs instead of the elevator. You pet your dog and provided a loving home. You picked up one piece of clutter. You read a few chapters. Or maybe you gave yourself permission to rest today, to worry about the dishes and laundry and whatever else is piling up tomorrow. 

Girl, it’s all fine. You’re fine. And I know it’s hard and tiring and exhausting. I know it’s hard to keep your chin up. But I think if we can start to acknowledge that it’s impossible to do it all…we give ourselves the ability to focus on what matters most.

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