Dear achievers: don't let them tear you down.

Validate Yourself. Always.

When you’re rising, reaching dreams, achieving, there will always be people around you who try to tear you down. It’s inevitable. 

They’ll come for your character. They’ll try to rattle your confidence. They’ll try to grab the reins of power and put you back in the cage. They’ll wrangle you, rope you in, put a ceiling on your achievements. They’ll try to scar your reputation or misrepresent who you are. They’ll try to tell you who you are. They’ll try to make you doubt your abilities, your gifts, your purpose, your path. And sometimes, they’ll be masked as “good” people, successful people. Sometimes, they’ll do all of this with a smile on their face and poison coated in best wishes for you.

But I’ve come to learn that you really, truly can’t let that shake you. Is it easy to stand tall in the face of toxicity? Not at all. Is it easy to walk into the room with red lips on when you know they’re just waiting for you to mess up? Not at all. Is it easy to stand cool, calm, and collected in who you are when they’re trying to rip you to shreds? Nope. 

Still, even when it’s hard, you have to turn inward. You have to steady yourself with the knowledge that you don’t need anyone else’s permission or validation to live the life that is yours. You don’t need them to validate your reputation, your knowledge, your worth. And your character, your gifts, are not affected by the poison they try to spew. Not when you’re grounded in who you are and what you want in this life. Not when you know without a doubt where you’re headed. 


The most valuable lesson you can learn, even if it’s the hard way, is that you don’t need their validation to stand confident, strong, and follow the path of your dreams. So keep standing tall. Keep smiling. And keep knowing that when they try to tear you down, it isn’t about you–it’s about their own insecurities, their own lack. Not you. 

#neverfalterinwhereyouregoing #validateyourself #youarenottheirinsecurities

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